Twenty years ago you thought your life was finally headed in the right direction. You were right…..and yet, so wrong. Some of the most basic principles of life were never taught to us and we fumble through life until our experiences lead to discovery. Everything you need in this world is within you. External approval and validation lead you to a never ending black hole of trying to please others. This is most certainly a way to make yourself unhappy. And isn’t the point of life to be happy? When you finally discover this, you will truly understand what it means to love oneself wholeheartedly, despite how anyone else feels about you.
There will be periods in your life where you feel as though you can conquer the world, without realizing the person inside doesn’t sincerely believe that. Because of this, you will attract people into your life that also don’t see your worth. They criticize your weaknesses, and ignore your strengths. You believe them. And worse? You think this is what you deserve. The perceptions of others is their reality based on their life experiences, not yours. Try not to spend time explaining yourself to those committed to misunderstanding you. None of the things that people say or do is about you. Read that again – none of the things that people say or do is about you. Seek to listen to your instincts and intuition, what’s best for someone is not necessarily what’s best for you. Some may not comprehend your journey and that is okay; it’s not theirs to understand. Recognize that each person has something to teach us and their own set of challenges. Be kind.
Know this: you won’t always be kind. You won’t always do the right thing. You may also say things about people or to people that isn’t about them, but about you. You will do things which you never thought you were capable. You will push people away and hurt them before they can hurt you. All the time, you will have no idea that it’s due to your internal, subconscious struggle. I’m disappointed to admit that you don’t discover this until many, many years later that by committing these actions you were testing the loyalty of those in your life, trying to protecting yourself. Your heart will break because of your own actions. No matter what anyone says, you, just as each person in this human experience we call life, deserve forgiveness for your shortcomings. Have the courage to be who you are, follow your intuition and don’t listen to the judgements of others. Be grateful you recognize your shortcomings, and be appreciative that you recognize that if/when you judge others it’s because of something within you that needs work. Others are not so fortunate to see this within themselves.
There are no guarantees in life. Remember that the only person you are guaranteed to spend the rest of your days with is YOU. Make sure when you look in the mirror you are happy with your decisions, no one else’s opinion matters. And if you aren’t, be brave enough to have the courage to change. You are under no obligation to be the same person you were ten years ago, ten days ago, or even ten minutes ago. No one is perfect and if they choose to judge you, that’s their problem, not yours.
Life is a PROCESS, try not to focus on the destination or you will miss the journey. And believe me, the journey is so much more imperative than the destination. Don’t let the world change your idealistic view. You’ll need that idealism more times than I care to admit over the next twenty years. Every brick that comes for you was essential for your growth – use them to build the foundation of your life to remind you of the challenges you conquered, both large and small. The road ahead may not be easy; and we never had the luxury of a simplified life, but it will absolutely be worth it. You’ll look back in gratitude for the setbacks and circumstances of your journey that made you the person you are today. Each seemingly insignificant moment of choice, the myriad of occasions that stretched your extremely limited patience, or the seasons inquiring about God and Faith, brought you to this moment. To this day, some of your greatest victories and largest challenges are still ahead of you. The Universe/God will make you extremely uncomfortable until you find your purpose. You will find during these times that those meant to be in your life will stay. Others will stay behind, as their part in your journey has ended. You may have recognized this early subconsciously; but it won’t break your heart any less.
Your life heading into 2019 isn’t the life for which you planned. Nonetheless, it’s miraculous. And we wouldn’t have wished for it any other way. These past three years your life unfolded in such a way that you know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, it’s due to divine intervention. Every ‘no’ was a redirection; every ‘yes’ meant your faith and patience would be tested. You are going to be given such a gift that will require observation and trusting your intuition. When you finally surrender to all that God/The Universe offers with faith greater than you ever believed possible, you are going to drop to your knees, look up at the stars in the sky and thank God that life didn’t turn out the way you once planned. It’s better. Miracles unfold in front of you. The unraveling is so tremendous that had you not been witness to it, you wouldn’t believe it either. The challenges you face in the next 20 years are really the opportunities that God presented you so that he could prepare you for EVERY. LITTLE. MIRACLE. for which you asked. And you will realize – life is happening for you, not to you.
We’re going into 2019 with excitement and anticipation of the things to come. It’s such a gift to watch this journey unfold. You will never be void of challenges, change happens whether we want it to or not. Still, not everyone uses change to grow. The goal is to get comfortable with change and emerge through the muddy waters, just as the lotus flower.
May you learn to be at ease in muddy waters. They are an immense blessing life has given to you. And 2019 for us? GAME. CHANGER.